The holiday season can be a time of joy but also of great stress for many people
For some, Christmas and New Year’s holidays are the most wonderful time of the year. For others, they are filled with strong emotions, complicated expectations, and a lot of work that doesn’t show up. Expectations, especially about how to spend the holidays, can sometimes cause us to spend all of our time, energy, and attention on things that don’t align with our values or are really important or necessary.
The reality is that for many of us, stress in our personal and professional lives is at an all-time high this time of year. Professionally, this period is often accompanied by many activities and deadlines to achieve goals and close those that need to be closed. And then we have parties, decorating, gift exchanges, cooking, travel plans to add to our already busy lives. If we are not careful, we can become even more exhausted after the holidays.
What can we do to make this holiday season even better?
1. Manage expectations
During the holidays, we “must have”, “must have” and so on. Anxiety increases when our expectations do not meet reality. We may also worry about failing to meet our own expectations or the real or perceived expectations of others.
The “key” is to think about what is real and meaningful to you. Accept that everything doesn’t have to be perfect. Don’t compare your vacation experience to someone else’s.
2. Simplify your life
Even with good intentions, it’s easy to get overwhelmed and overwhelmed. If we sit down to think about what is really important, we may find that some things are not as important as we think.
Clarify what is most important to you and make it a priority. What do you value most about the holidays? What makes you happy? What will you remember in ten years?
Ask your family to share with you what is most important to them during the holidays. Try to focus on the few that make sense and leave the rest.
3. “No” can be said
If you say yes to everything, you may find yourself with an overloaded schedule. Listen to yourself and notice any feelings of anxiety or stress. They may indicate that you are taking on too much.
It’s also very important to prioritize things that bring you joy and meaning. You may also need to say no when possible. You have every right to protect your own peace of mind.
4. Make being present a point
What those who love us really want is for us to be okay and to be there. Honor the moments you spend with them by giving them your undivided attention. This holiday season, let’s collect precious memories and moments, not just stuff.
5. Make sure you include yourself on your list
Your health is especially important during the holiday season. Taking care of your own well-being isn’t selfish—it’s science. When we allow ourselves to slow down to see what it feels like, we ask, “What do I need right now?” we can ask. Take the time to listen to what your heart, mind, and body are telling you and fulfill those needs—whether for rest, movement, or a moment of solitude